Courageous & Therapeutic Conversations
The effectiveness of couples therapy is directly related to the motivation level of both partners and timing. Research shows that a couple waits, on average, 6 years before seeking help. That's 6 years to build up resentment before they begin the important work of learning to resolve differences in effective ways. So many couples come to therapy way beyond their due date. The longer a couple delays entering therapy to address concerns, the more challenging the work. Prevention is 3 times more effective than intervention.
The challenges we face inside our relationships help us confront things about ourselves. Many people don't realize how much we need to grow inside of relationships and how intimacy itself is challenging. The test of the relationship is how capable you are in working through those challenges. As a therapist I see loneliness in the presence of another, lack of any physical touch, despair, contempt, and entrenched patterns of relating that keep a couple stuck or unravels them.
I know how overwhelming and painful communication, and other challenges that emerge in intimate relationships, can be. I also know the potential for change, growth, and connection that is possible in working through these challenges with support. It's important to choose a therapist who has experience and training working with couples and who is a good fit for both of you. I enjoy helping couples connect in new ways by teaching an alternative language that then shapes an alternative experience . Who we become by virtue of who we are with. How the relationship creates us and how we create it.
I help couples understand and resolve conflicts, improve their relationship satisfaction, and move beyond impasses. I tailor therapy to meet your unique needs, and utilize various evidence based treatment approaches, including the well researched Gottman Method for couples counseling, as well as integrate other well established and respected therapeutic approaches to couples therapy. Therapy gives couples the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve, and even argue in a healthier way. The focus of couples therapy is to develop goals and implement a plan designed to alleviate these issues and restore balance and intimacy to the relationship. Couples therapy can help you build a solid foundation for your relationship and create a more fulfilling connection with your partner.
When working with couples , I use a dual perspective, meaning both partners point-of-view is valid, heard, and understood; helping people see the wisdom of both sides. Much of my work is about providing structure and a safe space to have difficult conversations. Seeing problems in context, I help my clients see their dominate and prevailing coping strategies that often exacerbate the issues.
During your couples therapy sessions I will help you and your partner transform defensiveness into curiosity, and turn isolation into openness, connection, and intimacy. You will learn how to turn criticism into requests, frustrations into feedback, and learn how to be open and vulnerable with each other. You will learn skills proven to restore and strengthen relationships.
My work is a blend of: process, psychoeducation, skills, and exercises to do outside of our couples therapy sessions. My style is marked by humor, frankness, and empathy. I see my role as a mediator between a couple’s competing narratives.
When I first start working with a new couple, I meet with the couple initially together to gather a couples history, assess the couples goals, and identify any areas of current difficulty. I have both parties complete the online Gottman couples assessment*. Then I meet with each partner individually to get their personal history and assess their personal goals. The frequency and duration of your couples therapy will depend on your needs. I typically recommend weekly couples sessions initially, but this varies between couples and will depend on your needs. Weekly sessions are beneficial for the early stages of therapy in order to establish goals and to start working towards identified goals. Once progress has built momentum, couples sessions tend to fade to every other week then to monthly.
I have a Open Secrets policy. Information divulged in individual sessions will be kept confidential.
Common Issues I Treat Include:
Feeling disconnected from each other
Couples Intake Assessment Session, 90 minutes $240
An interview tracing the trajectory of your relationship, gaining a couples history, observing how you interact especially during difficult discussions, identifying goals, and completing the online Gottman assessment, which will be emailed to you directly after our session. At the end of our session I will schedule a follow-up couples session as well as an individual session with each partner.
Note: the individual sessions & subsequent couples sessions are not included in the Couple Intake Assessment Session price of $240. Please see blow for pricing.
Couples Intake Assessment Session, 90 minutes $240.00
Couple Session, 90 minutes $185
Couples Intensive Session, 2 hours, $215.00
Couples Intensive Session, 3 hours, $315.00
Individual Session, 60 minutes, $125.00
Couples Intensive Sessions are designed for couples who feel the traditional 90 minute session once a week, or every-other-week, is not beneficial, or for those with busy work schedules.
*The Gottman Couples Assessment was developed from over 40 years of research and can help pinpoint what causes the relationship trouble spots as well as the strengths that hold you together. This assessment is geared towards all stages of relationships, whether new relationship, premarital, or marital. The Gottman Couples Assessment is 480 questions long and covers the following areas: Friendship, Intimacy, Emotions, Conflict, Values, Trust, Parenting, Housework, Finances, & Individual Areas Of Concern. The assessment accurately evaluates a relationship's strength and challenges, and provides personalized feedback for effective intervention.
*If any of the following issues exist, couples therapy cannot take place until the issue is addressed. Substance Abuse / Addiction, Personality Disorders, and/or Domestic Violence. I do not work with these specific issues, therefore you will be referred out to a qualified professional to help assist you in this area. Please note that couples may also be referred out at the conclusion of the 4 sessions if I feel they need more specialized intervention based on information gained over the course of the assessment sessions.
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Couples Therapy in East Cobb, Marietta.